Dean
Finding out that you’re being cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world. It’s a huge betrayal by someone you trusted and someone who promised to be faithful.
This is the story told by a man on Reddit who was using a throwaway account, about how he found out that his wife of 8 years was cheating on him. He hired a private investigator and wrote updates as the story made twists and turns, keeping readers enthralled. His Reddit post went massively viral, with tons of people sending him messages of support.
Some people also seemed to think the story he was telling was fake, but that doesn’t really make sense. A person would have absolutely nothing to gain from that, and the man who posted the thread honestly sounded pretty miserable.
He began by explaining that he and his wife had what he’d thought was a wonderful relationship:
My wife is cheating on me as evidenced by filthy text messages, I know but she doesn’t know that I do. My sister in law might be in on it too. Where do I go from here?
My wife (Jenny) and I have been married for 8 years. We met when we were 22 and we had both just graduated from university. It’s been great so far, we haven’t had a huge argument where we’ve had to separate for a period of time or anything like that. Also, we have given each other our passwords to our phones and personal emails.Jenny was sleeping this morning and my brother shot her a text. My brother’s wife (Carly) and Jenny are planning on going out of town for a get-away while my brother, I, and some friends are going to watch football on Sunday and hang out during the weekend. He was asking Jenny to text Carly on his phone because Carly dropped her phone in the toilet. My brother and Carly were basically sharing phones for the time being till she gets a new phone.
I decided to open up the phone and reply something stupid and funny in order to embarrass Jenny. So I opened up the iMessage app and went to read their previous conversation to see what was happening, so I could tell a relevant joke. 2nd to the top of the list of conversations was a chat with a guy/girl named Zack. I didn’t know who Zack was, but the most recent thing he sent her was “<3 gn”. I was curious, so I put off replying to my brother and opened up Jenny and Zack’s chat.
To my horror, there was sexually explicit talk of what he wanted to do to Jenny when she “crawled up next to his sack.” What a filthy beast. I scroll up, and there are multiple nudes from both of them waiting for me to discover. Most of them are dated sometime between 1-4am (usually I’m sleeping then, smart.) so I knew she was obviously trying to hide it from me.
At that very minute, he realized that his entire marriage was over.
I realized my wife is cheating on me. I took a moment to realize that this was the end of our marriage. All of our happy times, our foreign trips, and our romantic nights must have meant nothing to her. I put the phone down and went to the bathroom to freshen up while Jenny was still sleeping.
I carry on with my day, make breakfast and wake her up. While she was sleeping, her phone went off 7 times (yes, I counted) and they were good morning texts from Zack and a confirmation to see if she was still visiting him this weekend.
She went to the bathroom and I heard her phone vibrate loudly since it was placed on the bathroom countertop. I heard the sounds of typing, and the send button. This happened 3 times while she was in there. As she was coming out, I quickly went downstairs to pretend like I was doing nothing out of the ordinary. We eat, she goes to take a shower and I try to open up her phone.
Jenny changed her phone password. I must have been acting a little weird/distant, or she thought it was time to secure her phone since we’ve been so comfortable around each other for the past few years. I tried to open up her Facebook and email, but the passwords to those were changed as well.
Okay, yes, stealing her phone is bad, but what she was doing was way worse.
Jenny has gone out with some “friends” tonight. She thinks she lost her phone. Nope, I stole it before she left so I could try and break into it. I went through a massive hassle to unlock her phone but I finally did it. She’s cheating on me. They talk about sex positions they want to try, how far Zack can shove his cock down her throat, and one short conversation about meeting up this weekend. My bitch sister in law Carly must be in on this.
I’ve erased all trace of me breaking into her phone. I don’t know what to do now. Jenny is cheating on me but we’ve had no major problems in the time we’ve been together. We still have sex 4-5 times a week and I make her cum a couple times during each session; we still go out on dates and cuddle sometimes when we’re home. I don’t get it. She’s on birth control since I told her we should wait a little bit before we have kids thank god.
We’re both fit and still attractive I guess so it isn’t about looks. I have a bigger penis than the other guy if that’s what she desires. I don’t mean to compare it’s just primal instinct fighting over a mate.
He wasn’t sure if he should tell her what he’d found out, or keep it secret to spring on her later, once he’d gathered more evidence.
Should I tell her I know? Should we split and file divorce right away? Should I tell my brother Carly is in on this? Get revenge? I’ve got a prenup in place with a cheating clause since I make much much more than her (212k-30k) thankfully so I won’t be getting shafted. I’m thinking on finding out more about the situation (tail gating when she travels?) and then coming to a conclusion, since Carly might not even know about this. I’m not even sure if they’re actually leaving town or she just wants to spend time with him. Sorry if I’m rambling and I don’t make much sense, I’m just really pissed. Goddammit I loved her :/
I have screenshotted the texts and emailed them to myself. I feel like someone has shot me in the stomach.
By popular request I will post an update with the bigger changes and results of the PI investigation on r/relationships. Sometime after the weekend (Late Sunday or Monday/Tuesday). I will link it in an edit here so save the post or check my profile on Monday and Tuesday.
Thank you all so much for the supportive comments, it means a lot to me. It’s a struggle keeping a straight face around her, but I’m fighting through it for this last week.