Mike
Ah, the enigma of love and relationships, where hearts entwine in a dance of connection, and yet, the puzzle of why some couples flourish while others falter remains as captivating as ever.
It’s a quest for answers that spans the realms of psychology, chemistry, and the human heart itself. From the magical sparks that ignite lasting bonds to the unexpected quirks that make relationships beautifully unique, we’ll unravel the mysteries of compatibility and companionship.
Recently, one psychologist, Maryland-based Dr. Angelica Shiels (@dr..angelica.shie), broke down how common couple dynamics work.
“The female’s deeper feelings and needs can’t help but bust through. ‘You never talk to me,’ she thinks, only she doesn’t say that out loud because that’s too vulnerable. She sets up a test to see if she doesn’t talk to her man, how long will it take him to notice?”
“He’s avoidant, so he doesn’t notice. Or she’s still so afraid of abandonment, if she’s vulnerable, she keeps him at arm’s length by criticizing or bossing him around instead of saying, ‘See me, engage with me, care about me.’ But he’s avoidant, so he takes everything at face value and just gets super defensive. Like, ‘What do you want from me? I just can’t win.'”
“They both have deep wounds to be healed, and in the safety of a therapy office with parameters around the exercises, they’re wide open to heal them.”
See the Tiktok here:
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