‘After this I want to quit’: Employee Requests PTO For Family Funeral, Boss Demands Proof Of Service

A recent story on r/AskHR shares an employee’s distressing experience in New York. The employee, part of a small team of five women and with the company for almost four months, took PTO for a family funeral. Upon returning, their boss unexpectedly asked for proof of attendance at the funeral service, like a mass card or pamphlet, which left the employee feeling upset and disturbed.

Despite a flawless record of attendance and punctuality, the employee wonders if their routine orthodontist appointments have aroused suspicion. The employee, earning $26,000 a year in a described harsh work environment, now feels overworked and undervalued, contemplating quitting.

The post seeks insights on the commonality of employers requiring funeral proof, particularly in situations where formal bereavement leave isn’t taken.


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