Masha
It’s wild how many everyday things women are taught to accept without question, only to realize later how deeply rooted they are in sexism.
From childhood lessons to workplace dynamics, these moments often fly under the radar until someone points them out.
Women on Reddit are sharing the subtly sexist things they’ve experienced that society has long treated as “normal.”
It’s a mix of relatable, frustrating, and eye-opening anecdotes that might have you rethinking a few things.
Keep going for the top responses to the viral thread.
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“Men get grumpy when they don’t get enough sex. You have to have sex with your man frequently, or he’ll get annoyed. That’s just the way men are. Turns out that no, that’s not how decent grown men are. That’s just how immature man-boys are.”
“I’m not talking about different libidos. I’m talking about the men who don’t do anything around the house, have terrible hygiene, and have the emotional regulation of a 2-year-old, who have a tantrum when they don’t get the sex they think they’re entitled to.”
“Act like a decent person, do your share around the house, put on some deodorant, and take a damn shower, and your girlfriend will actually want to have sex with you.”
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“Haha! You got beat by a GIRL!” said by the girl herself when she beat a guy in a game. This was common in the ’90s/early ’00s.
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“Women letting men be in charge of, like, everything. I don’t just mean politics. When I was younger, I had boyfriends give unsolicited opinions on how I should wear my hair, dress, and use/not use makeup. It blows my mind now that any of that seemed normal and OK.”
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“Believing that if a boy teases me, he must have a crush on me. My daughters are being raised differently.”
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“When men would catcall, grab me in clubs, and touch me without consent. I’m going back about 11-plus years, when I was out partying a lot. It was so commonplace, we all just accepted it. I’m disgusted by it now and sad that we all had to deal with that.”
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“A woman’s purpose is to serve the Lord, stay pure until marriage, and serve her husband. Being raised with this mentality led to being pressured into giving up my ‘purity’ before marriage and feeling as though I had to stay with that man, waiting on him hand and foot, because that’s what I was ‘supposed’ to do. Religious trauma is real and is a terrible thing to live with. I’m thankful that I am no longer in that situation.”
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“That marriage would make me feel complete or happy. I still struggle with the same personality flaws and anxieties that I had when I was dating or single. No one can solve your issues but you, regardless of their title or role in your life. It’s nice to know I have someone on my team, but it’s never enough.”
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“That men are incapable of self-control, so you better be 100% committed to sex before so much as kissing them, because they can’t stop once they get started, and if you change your mind, tough luck. I was taught this by my mother, who still, to this day, fully believes it.”
“Maybe TMI, but even right at his peak, if my demeanor changes at all, my mate stops to check in and makes sure I’m still fully engaged. And if, on occasion, for whatever reason, I need to stop, he stops immediately and doesn’t make me feel bad about it. No guilt, no shame, no failure. Ladies, please don’t accept less than this in a partner.”
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“Being unhappy in a relationship, always walking on eggshells around them.”
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“Men will fantasize about every woman in their life. My ex really messed with my head, and I’m beyond relieved to know that’s not usually the case.”
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“Traditional gender roles in a household.”
“I grew up in a Southern Baptist family where the women would cook and clean at family events and the men would sit around and talk and drink. Even the kids were forced into these roles. I just thought it was normal.”
“What’s especially bad is that these women also had jobs of their own. You can argue that it’s an equal partnership if the man works and the woman is the homemaker, but when the women are expected to cook, clean, host, do laundry, care for kids, and hold a job, that’s just wild.”
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“That my worth is about how likable I am and how I can serve others around me. I tried so much to meet the unrealistic expectations and gave up when my dad got cancer and literally no one tried to be there for me except for a few friends who are now my ride or die—and they didn’t do it because I was likable or serving them. They genuinely love me for who I am. That experience changed my entire perspective on life.”
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“That girls were naturally catty and you just deal with it because of growing pains. Nope, just like terrible little boys who use aggression and violence to solve all their problems because their parents didn’t bother raising them to communicate, girls are not naturally catty, and using misogyny to excuse the insane, cruel, and abusive stuff girls did to me or each other is doing NOTHING for the gender.”
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“Underwire bras. They’re such a scam. The only way I’m wearing a wire under my breasts ever again is if I become an informant for the feds.”
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“Having sex even though I didn’t want to or didn’t feel like it at the moment, because I thought the guy I was with at the time was right when he said, ‘There is something wrong with you.’ And I didn’t question it because he ‘never had a girl act that way before,’ and I was supposed to satisfy the guy whenever he pleased ’cause I thought that was the way you were supposed to act when you date someone.”
“Turns out, I didn’t want to be with the guy because deep down, I didn’t like him and wasn’t attracted to him. Should’ve listened to my body. Never again.”
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“Men being controlling, possessive, and overall toxic in relationships. The movies tailored to me from childhood all showed me that if a man wants me, he will be possessive and not want any other guy to even look at me. I thought it was romantic. I used to feel undesired, as if he didn’t really like me if he wasn’t controlling and didn’t get jealous if a guy stared at me too long.”
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“Men won’t like or talk or be attracted to you if you look/dress/behave a certain way. I shaved my head and still got men’s attention. Good, decent men will care about and love you for you. Everything my mom told me I was doing that men wouldn’t like about me was wrong.”
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“That women shave every day.”
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“Defaulting to prefer male bosses, heroes, politicians, pop stars, actors, everything. It wasn’t until my 30s that I realized the systemic nature of this. It’s so pervasive, you don’t even notice. Now I support fellow women, LGBTQ people, diversity, and minorities all the way.”
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“Thinking that weight is health and that smaller is better.”
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“Pretty much my entire family dynamic growing up, and a lot of subtle sexism (e.g., being the ‘responsible one’ and being expected to cook/keep an eye on my older brother so he didn’t burn the house down, instead of just…holding him accountable and teaching him to cook?). The guy basically had to do a chore badly once and it became my responsibility to teach him or do it myself, even though I was cooking full meals and doing my own laundry as a kid.”
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“Women keeping quiet when a man says something rude or stupid. I never saw a woman stand up for women when I was growing up.”
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