Alex Buscemi
A popular Reddit thread asked men to share the things women are insecure about that they actually love—and the responses were surprisingly wholesome, weirdly specific, and deeply honest.
Reddit user u/Daffles21 recently posed the question, “Men, what is something that your wife/girlfriend dislikes about herself that you actually find attractive?”
From stretch marks to laugh lines to birthmarks and freckles, these so-called “flaws” are often what make someone feel real, unique, and beautiful to their partners.
It’s a good reminder that the stuff people obsess over in the mirror usually isn’t what others are paying attention to.
Here are some of the most relatable, sweet, and occasionally unhinged answers from the thread.
1. Gray hair
Gray hair. Not only is hair just starting to turn gray attractive, but I like more and more gray as I get older. Bonus for the thick streaks of gray.
I’m going gray and really struggling with it and I don’t want to fight the battle of constantly covering it up. Thank you so much for this comment
The first girl I dated was the same age as me (30 at the time), but she had quite a few silver hairs, and I thought they were the cutest thing ever. Almost like little streamers of tinsel.
2. Uneven breasts
Uneven breasts. Adds character and makes paying attention to each one a separate adventure.
Fun fact, it’s actually extremely rare for someone’s breasts to be perfectly symmetrical, there’s usually one that’s slightly larger. Especially depending where you’re at for your cycle (ovulation and menstruation can increase the difference due to hormone levels).
However, not so fun fact, if the size difference is a whole cup size or more bigger, consult a doctor to be on the safe side, it can be a sign of health problems.
Also, not to echo the other reply, but “separate adventure” has me chuckling, thank you.
Losing it at “separate adventure”, if you only knew the amount of times I tried pinching at the skin on my chest to make my boobs even/the same size.
3.Crow’s feet
Laugh lines around the eyes (sometimes called crow’s feet). Sexy AF on older women.
It makes me really sad to see everyone in general frown upon laugh lines, whether they’re on the eyes or around the mouth. Why wouldn’t you want to show the world you’ve lived a life full of joy and laughter?
4. Cellulite
Cellulite??? I don’t care what kind of phone she got.
okay this got me. shit ty for the smile. too pure.
5. Thick thighs
Thick thighs. I love thighs and if I’m not suffocating between my wife’s thighs, am I even going down on her?
Thick thighs save lives.
This is good to hear. No matter how much I weigh, my thunder thighs have always stuck with me.
6. Freckles
When I was in college, two different girls reacted badly when I tried to compliment their freckles. They both told me they hated them. I’ll never understand it. If you have freckles, you’ve won the pretty-face lottery in my opinion.
I used to cover mine up. One time I was out at the local club and another regular leaned into talk and then stopped… looked at me strangely and said “wow look at those freckles! Why the hell would you cover them up?” Since I stopped covering them up I have found a lot of people who really like them.
7. Everything
Her fluffy little tummy, the way she smiles, that dorky cute little laugh she does, her stretch marks, her C-section scar, her thighs, her everything. She’s a goddess that I choose to worship.
i hope she happens upon this comment because it’s v sweet
8. ‘Ugly’ laugh
I know a lot of women try to mask their laugh to sound cute or girly. But when you get a woman to snort laugh, or better, donkey bray laugh, you know it’s genuine and heartfelt. It’s the best thing ever. I don’t care if your laugh sounds “ugly.” I just want you to laugh.
Sometimes my boyfriend will do/say the stupidest shit to make me laugh. When it works, and I tell him he’s an idiot, he always says “if me being an idiot means I get to hear you laugh, then I’m never going to stop”. He even told me that when we first met, he secretly made it his personal mission to make me laugh as often as possible. He’s just the cutest.
9. Big foreheads
Their big-ass foreheads.
Bro I was looking for this comment, lowkey same haha.
Christina Ricci. Sexiest forehead in show business.
10. Loud farts
My wife hates her stomach because she has complicated digestion and farts very loud sometimes. I love it though. It makes me feel safe at home. And in winter, it’s natural heating in the bed.
“You are beautiful and even if you are a liar and fart like a Clydesdale, I love to meet up sometime”
11. Big nose
I love a big nose on a woman.
Thank you for saying that, I have a big nose,but I am a very small women and always have been. I got bullied alot because of it.
12. Hip dips
I was always very insecure about my hip dips until my boyfriend told me he loved them. He just said, “I love the way your hips go in a little there, it makes your butt so cute.” I was shocked. He’s somehow found every insecurity I have and told me how attractive it is before he even knew I was insecure.
I had to Google what hip dips were and I’m shocked that all the results were about how to get rid of them. They’re beautiful, basically a little hourglass figure that frames your butt.
13. Chubby cheeks
My ex-girlfriend always complained about her cheeks and how she looked like Quico (a character from an old Mexican TV show). I loved her cute round face and loved kissing and caressing it.
Oh no Quico, that’s brutal she calls herself that
14. Inverted nipples
My wife was very self-conscious about her inverted nipples, but I adore them.
god this makes me feel a little better. i have one of each (innie and outtie) and it makes me so self conscious
15. Broad shoulders
Broad shoulders. I once told a girl I liked her broad shoulders and she got mad at me. I learned a lot that day.
lol i have broad shoulders, and one time a customer at work who had a VERY eastern european accent said “you look strong!! you’d be a great farm girl!!” and it actually made me happy about my shoulders!
16. Stretch marks
Stretch marks. Like Kendrick said, “Show me something natural like ass with some stretch marks.” Girls see them as flaws, but I see them as proof of a body that’s lived.
I remember my doctor had asked me, “you must have lost a bunch of weight at some point {before I ever first saw him}, didn’t you? The only way people ever have these stretch marks, is if they gave birth or they lost some decent weight!”
I’m damn proud of em!!!
17. Birthmarks
My girlfriend has a brown birthmark on her butt and she hates it. I tell her how sexy I think it is every chance I get. That little spot drives me wild.
18. Hip meat
The soft meaty part around the hipbones that spreads out when they sit down or kneel. It’s so attractive.
Reading all these comments is making me blush. I hate that part of my body, but maybe now, not so much.
The thass. Where ass and thigh meet
19. Small, big, or medium boobs
All boobs are good. Small, big, medium. Don’t care.
20. Jiggling
The jiggling. All that movement going on—it’s enthralling.
Saw this girl at one time, drop her hand. It kinda bumped her thigh, and made it shake, ever so slightly, like a firm shake. I almost died.
If I see a girl walk towards me with boobs, belly, and thighs all a-jiggling, it’s all over.
21. Her B.O.
her smell/taste BEFORE she showers. -phantomht
My man
22. Unique labia
I really appreciate unique labia and I find it absolutely heartbreaking that there is so much widespread insecurity about this that there are cosmetic surgeries to “fix” “imperfect” labia. Past girlfriends and flings who had more prominent or “unconventional” labia were dreadfully insecure about it and some went as far as to be absolutely astounded that I’d compliment them during/after sex because a past partner hated it or was very cruel and callous about it. -e-co-terrorist
I dated a guy for 9 years who didn’t like going down on me because he thought my labia was too large. I never had an insecurity about my vagina until then and it completely changed my sex life. Even now it’s a big struggle and I never let anyone go down on me. I”m working on loving my body again but it’s great to read things like this.
23. Crossbite
A woman I used to work with had a mild crossbite and I found it weirdly attractive.
24. Saggy boobs
Boobs with some sag to them. Sometimes a lot of sag. And those big blue veins. Love them.
25. Slight stomach chub
The little stomach chub in a tight dress.
I don’t wear tight clothes bc of that stomach chub. This is incredible to read
If I ever feel frustrated trying to hide my belly in a tight dress, I would be reminded that somewhere out there, someone would appreciate my little chub
26. Getting older
Everything that has to do with getting older. When my wife and I got married, we were obviously younger and in our 20s. Although never thin, I was more slender. My wife, 5’9 and legs for days and just banging body. Now? I’m not as thin (same as her) we have two kids, and I find her sexier now more than ever. In our almost decade together, we have slept on a floor, used change for gas and had our electricity turned off 3-4 times for non payment. She’s my Ride or Die. She has more of a tummy now, bigger boobs, maybe doesn’t shave like she used to or wear skimpy lingerie outfits randomly. BUT. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. We have grown older together and I honestly couldn’t find anything in this world that still turns me on as the certain way my wife runs her fingers down my back or how she looks naked. And it’s because she’s mine. Not in a possessive sexist way. But in a, I’m the luckiest guy in the world that this beautiful human wants to spend the rest of their life with me (and have sex with me). Hopefully this isn’t too long winded.
Long story short…..girls spend tons of time worrying about getting older. Age isn’t always a detractor.
This got me in the feels. I hope my hubby views me this way, I know I view him this way. It’s not how he looks but how he’s evolved over the years with me and on his own and how those things connect us that makes him so attractive to me.
People say women age like fine wine. That’s wrong. Fine wine ages like women.