50 Men Get Brutally Honest About The Things Women Think Are Attractive But Are Major Turn-Offs

There’s this gap between what people think is attractive and what actually is, and nobody wants to admit when they’re on the wrong side of it.

Women spend time and energy doing things they genuinely believe men find hot, and men just sit there quietly not saying anything because who wants to be the one to bring it up. So the confusion continues and everyone keeps doing the same stuff that doesn’t work.

Reddit user u/PumpkinDoritoes finally asked men to be honest about what women do to seem attractive that they actually can’t stand, and the answers are pretty straightforward. No sugarcoating, no trying to be nice about it, just men saying what they’ve been thinking this whole time but never felt like they could say out loud.

Here are some of the things men admitted they don’t actually find attractive at all.

1.

Lip fillers are hideous. I’ve no idea why so many women willingly keep doing this to themselves.

2.

Implants, too much makeup, acrylic claw like nails.

3.

Speaking in a childlike voice to appear cute. I guess some guys like it but to me it’s creepy.

4.

My buddy dated a girl for a couple of months and one day out of the blue she broke up with him. It was quickly discovered that it was a test because when hit with that news he felt a bit of relief and responded that he understood and wished her well. No hard feelings…on his part. She lost her mind and borderline stalked him for months.

5.

Being “high maintenance.”

I want a relationship not a monthly subscription.

6.

Lip fillers, ditto. They look fake and horrible. Fake eyelashes: look like caterpillars Overly long fake nails. “Designer” anything.

7.

Socials. I don’t care about followers count or anything of that nature. If they brag about that, it’s my cue to leave.

8.

Acting hard to get only makes you hard to want.

To me it always just looks like a lack of interest, and if there’s no interest I’ll stop trying.

9.

Lots of make up. Although, as I get older I become more and more convinced that women aren’t actually bothered about impressing men, it’s really other women they want to impress/make jealous!

10.

Being difficult. The whole “if you can’t handle me at my worst” nonsense just screams the “best” ain’t worth it. Why would anyone want that?

11.

Mar-a-lago face makes me want to throw up.

I haven’t met any humans of any gender who thinks that looks good. Its like the Amazon guy’s wife, any time her photo pops up, whoever i am near comments how terrible she looks…

Ive heard.. “all the money in the world, and she chooses to look this terrifying”… but never “i wish I could afford to look like that.”

12.

Those hideous painted eyebrows.

13.

Claiming to be an influencer or model. The delusional need for social media acceptance.

14.

Game playing. Instead, just say what you want. That would be a godsend to men everywhere.

15.

Not eating when on a date, like if he sees you consuming food you’ll immediately become obese and he will be disgusted, so all you order is a side salad and then steal his fries.

Just get the steak. Men tend to like women with a healthy appetite especially when it carries over to other activities.

16.

Putting other women down.

17.

Telling us about how many other dudes are interested in you or what they did for you.

I dated someone who did that. I think she believed that was how you got a man to spoil you. I also came to the conclusion that she had “traded up” to me from the last guy, because she would compare me to him a lot if she felt I was slacking.
We lasted less than a week.

18.

Heavily edited or overly posed photos.

19.

Being “sassy” or a “brat” …. it’s just being annoying and/or obnoxious.

20.

There’s a difference between being an independent individual vs simply not taking others into account. I’m glad you’re your own person, absolutely. I don’t want to be responsible for somebody’s sense of self. But, if there’s no room for others in your narrative it’s probably going to be a lonely one.

21.

Women seem to think men are impressed by how much money they spend on clothes or bags, but most men either don’t notice or don’t care.

22.

“I know my worth” post. Having a healthy self esteem is good and necessary but it doesn’t work that way.

Saying you see yourself as a “Queen” doesn’t means people must treat you as one.

23.

Everything excessive so it shows. Make-up, cosmetic stuff, especially the ugly lip thing they do. Excessively high heels, small purses. I like my women sort of natural and not fake. I must recognize her without make-up, in jeans and t-shirt as well.

24.

Idk but a lot of women seem to post up their dating profiles like they are ads for a job application. Tell me about YOU, don’t tell me what I should be.

25.

Maybe it’s just me, But non-stop traveling and endless party pictures don’t impress me at all.

26.

I went on a date with a girl who told me like 5 different stories of her getting into fights. Did not take her up on a 2nd date.

27.

Pretending to be dumb.

I remember watching my sister, who is extremely intelligent, play dumb for a boy when she was 14 or 15 and I was shocked. He said some dumb fact about Europe, and she said some ditzy comment like, “So Europe is a continent, hehe?” I don’t know why it bothered me so much in the moment, but I laughed at her and called her out, something to the effect of, “Aren’t you in the Geography club and spent last summer in Rome!?”

We all try different approaches when we’re figuring out how to talk to the opposite sex, and she definitely grew up to be an assertive woman who leads with her intelligence.

28.

Long stories about exes.

29.

BBL.

30.

As a woman I would say acting super jealous or trying to test him with some drama to check if he “cares enough” or is “boyfriend/hubby material”.

In reality, most men won’t only be unimpressed, they will see it as a huge red flag and rightfully so.

31.

Taking 2 hours to get ready…

32.

Had a girl on the first date that kept bringing up making money and wanting to be super rich out of context to the point where it got weird. Wanting to be rich is fine, but like it shouldn’t be 75% of your personality.

33.

Fake everythings.

34.

Once the makeup doesn’t match the skin tone of your neck/shoulders it looks way worse than your natural face ever could.

35.

When they say they can’t get along with other women. I always think man there’s no way you’re a stable, honest and interesting person. If you can’t maintain friendships with your own gender I know a few women who think it’s a flex when talking to guys but I just don’t think it’s impressive at all.

36.

Saying “I’m a lot.”

Yes I’m aware. Pointing it out just makes it worse.

37.

Im sure it’s not gender exclusive but I can’t stand a woman who really brags herself up, acts like she’s a take charge type “alpha” or something then literally approaches every situation with what seems like 2 brain cells.

38.

I have had several instances where women have pretended to be interested in my nerdy hobbies only to later be annoyed by them and refuse to participate in them in a relationship.

39.

Boasting about themselves and how they’re important.

Ego

Arrogant

Not being respectful of others.

40.

It’s not gender specific, but I hate it when women are purposely dishonest with you in order to impress you. I want to know the real you so I can know what I’m getting into.

41.

Acting disinterested to seem to be COOL.

I remember bumping into a girl I liked from school a good 10 years after we left and she was talking about how she used to have a crush on me yet she very strongly rejected any flirting I tried or even general conversation. I straight up thought she was disgusted by me so idk what on earth her plan was lol

42.

Being intentionally rude or sarcastic to seem confident.

43.

Buccal fat removal.

44.

Talking trash about other women – especially their girl friends.

Also family. I get it if you don’t have the greatest relationship with them, but you don’t have to always bag on them; it’s not a good look.

45.

Posting luxury flex pics. Most guys just assume it’s debt or daddy’s money and keep scrolling.

46.

Talking about how much they don’t need a man. Like, I can respect that they can take care of themselves, but why are you advertising yourself if you’d rather just be alone?

47.

Bragging about being able to drink as much as men….i don’t think I’ve ever seen it turn out well.

48.

I’ve seen some interviews with women who, when asked to rate themselves, automatically say they are a 10. And they think that answer will impress men, because, in their words, ‘men want confident women.’

Nope. Being blatantly deluded isn’t impressive or a sign of confidence. Men want a woman who understands reality.

49.

Boasting about being promiscuous.

50.

Refusing to answer Yes or No.