34 People Reveal How They Caught Their Partner Cheating

Infidelity has a way of revealing itself eventually, no matter how careful someone thinks they’re being.

You can delete texts and clear browser history and come up with excuses, but something always slips—a wrong name saved in a phone, a location that doesn’t match the story, a kid who mentions something they weren’t supposed to.

These are real stories from people who caught their partners cheating, and the methods range from accidentally stumbling across evidence to deliberately tracking someone down after suspicions got too loud to ignore.

Some found out through STD diagnoses at doctor’s appointments, some walked in on it, some pieced it together from phone records or deleted emails that weren’t actually deleted. A few involved other people reaching out to tell them what was happening.

These are the stories of how people discovered their partner was cheating, and they’re harder to read than you’d think.

1.

Told me that he was at his parents’ and would probably be spending the night… I was over at his parents’ for dinner. They had seen me on my way home from work and invited me over. I was about to ask him when he would be finished work, so that he could meet me there, then I saw the message.

2.

Not me but a coworker. Went on a Contiki tour with his missus for his 21st birthday. Booked a 45 day tour, seeing like 15 different countries. A week or two into the trip she gets caught getting finger blasted by some random Spanish dude in a club in Barcelona. He is obviously devastated, and now he has to face the prospects of potentially travelling for another month with the girl who just stomped on his heart.

He contemplated just calling it and flying home, but other members of the tour convinced him to stay, have a good time and to get on with his life and enjoy the holiday he paid for. He organized with Contiki and the tour guides to re work the accommodation so he was no longer in a room with her.

He told me he had a marvelous time, made some great new friends and got to experience new things. She was miserable the whole time as basically the entire group shunned her for being a massive PoS, ignored her on nights out, and she was desperately hoping to get back with her (ex) bf who wanted nothing to do with her. He changed his flights on the way home to fly home later than she was, and extended his European holiday in order to keep the party going with some of the new friends he had made.

3.

I went to the dr for an IUD for birth control after our second child and while the dr was inserting the IUD in my cervix she informed me that I had an STD. I had only had sex with him for the past 10 years.

4.

I was using his laptop for my work meeting as mine was at the service center. I went to login my email and his was already logged in, first email was your flower delivery was successful. I didn’t think much of it however curiosity got the best of me, so I opened the email, and it was for some girl.

Scrolled a few emails down there were flight tickets, hotel reservation, car rental. He was f*****g multiple girls in the course of our 2 years relationship.

I packed my bags, told him I forgive him for whatever he has done and I am not going to sit and blame myself or ask myself where I was wrong, because he was always the priority and left my research programme to stay with him.

Cried my eyes out when driving back home and blocked him. 1 year and still devastated but good riddance.

5.

Not me but my mother — who had stage three bladder cancer at the time — had a knock on the door from a woman who told her that she was dating my dad. She said that she had heard my mum was on death’s doorstep, and that she had been taking parenting classes and watching her take her kids inside from the car to prepare for the day she could adopt them. Real class act.

6.

True story (circa 1982). My Mum marched into my Dad’s office at work one day and said “we need to talk” and he said “is this about Ramona?” and she said “who the f**k is Ramona?”. Divorced a year later….don’t think he ever found out what she wanted to talk about.

7.

She left her diary on the lounge room floor when she went to work. I debated reading it but eventually gave in. Was then I found out about her f*****g my brother multiple times when I was working night shift.

When I confronted her about it, I was called a prick for reading her diary and for working night shift, therefore not being home when she got horny. I tried to explain the difference in levels of the bad things we did, but she didn’t see any.

For some reason, we didn’t last after that…

8.

She was having too many “girls night out”. I was skeptical. I checked her location on FindMy and saw she was at the neighbor’s house. He’s single. A betrayal like that is devastating.

9.

Ex-wife (married 10 years) needed an emergency shot of Imetrex for a migraine. Fumbling though her purse looking for it and found a tear in the fabric. Lo and behold she had condoms stashed in there along with some m*th.

It was rough but I did end up with full custody of my two boys. Happily married to a wonderful woman now and everyone is ok. Even the ex, she eventually kicked her habit.

10.

Our seven-year-old, from the back seat of the car as I was driving her to school: “Mummy and me have had a really grown-up conversation about going to live with Mummy’s friend…” It’d be going on for six months.

We worked in the same place and she’d been taking him to work functions all that time whilst I was home with my daughter. I really was the last to know.

She left work but told everyone that she only cheated because I did first. Blatant lie. I had three months of work with people treating me like s**t because I got what I deserved — and then someone confronted me and told me what they all “knew”. From my reaction, they worked out I was actually probably innocent.

Was a rough time though.

11.

Found her SmartWatch which she left at home when she was heading out to New Years Eve with “The Girls.” I thought it was going to be funny to “spy” on her texts as the watch was buzzing like crazy and I figured her and her friends were discussing meet up spots and the like….

Only to see kissy faces and hearts from a mutual online friend whom she was apparently meeting… …yeah wasn’t a great new year.

Luckily that was Jan 2020 so that HAD to be the worst thing that would happen to me that year. Get it all out of the way at the start, right? ….right?

12.

Was driving our son around to get him to go to sleep. Ended up in the neighborhood of her office. Knowing she’d been working late a lot recently, I drove over there to see if she wanted me to bring her dinner.

Ended up catching her with a redneck co-worker in the parking lot in his 70’s hippy van. Went home and changed the locks.

13.

My ex used to run a construction business with a childhood friend. They were very close and his friend was in our wedding. Ex started stealing money from the business and lying about jobs.

I didn’t know this until his friend showed up at our home demanding we pay him back. My ex refused and told him he was going solo in the business.

The friend looked me dead in the eye and told me the woman’s name. No other info but just the name. I immediately knew what he meant by the look in his eye. He then gave me the address.

The house was built by my husband, four years prior.

14.

She said she was at a friend’s studying. I had suspicions about a guy she was working with so I drove about 30 minutes to his house and found her car there.

I parked out front and called her. She picked up and I just let her bury herself as hard as I could. Asked her what she was studying, what the girls name was she was studying with, where she lived, everything I could think of to make her fumble about.

Then I told her to look out front of the house she was in. When I saw her peek through a blind, I waved and told her to find a new place to live and to come get her things.

I know things hadn’t been great for a while, but it was still a bummer to end like that.

15.

I got let go from work early because we were overstaffed. She had ironically taken the day off for a “mental health day.” I pulled up into the driveway and when I walked in the door I immediately heard moaning upstairs.

I’m assuming she’s m*sturbating. I go up there and open the bedroom door… And my wife is on her back. Except there’s another woman straddling her face at the head of our bed whom she’s eating out. It’s another mom of one of the kids our kid goes to school with.

I had no idea my wife was even into women at all.

16.

Had a suspicion he was on Grindr, downloaded it and took screenshots of his (faceless but very obviously him) profile.

I held onto it for a few weeks because I was honestly in shock, but one day he made a joke about how seedy gay guys can be and I just went “oh like this?” And showed him the screenshots.

It was a very satisfying feeling watching him squirm!

17.

My wife announced at a holiday dinner that she was pregnant, I had a vasectomy 15 years before. Retested to make sure that no magic had reconnected.

The next weekend at a large family picnic, I told everyone about my zero sperm count.

18.

She was in the ICU on a ventilator and life support for 30 days. Docs had no answers and she was almost out of options. Gave her “significantly less than 50% chance” to live and told me to consider all possible explanations for her condition including hard d**g use.

Decided to go through her phone in an attempt to find anything that might help. No d***s found but I did find an 18 month affair.

19.

She had done some unexpected personal grooming and packed lingerie to take to work with her.

When we got home at the end of day and she went off to get ready for bed (clearly not intending to sleep with me), I pulled the very used lingerie out of her bag and confronted her.

She evaded initially, but ended up confessing it was some guy from her work she had only met a couple of days earlier.

That was 3 weeks ago. She’s still sleeping with the new guy while I’ve moved out and am trying to figure out how we sell the house we bought together 7 months ago. So, fun times.

20.

The, at the time, 22F AP sent me an email to clarify if my ex (39M then) and I (35F then) were truly divorced (we didn’t).

She and I immediately met that day and I found out that my ex was actively cheating on me for the past 2 years of my marriage, and that he was with her when he left me with no words for one entire month, among many other lies he had been feeding me and the AP from the get go.

Needless to say I immediately processed the divorce — should’ve done that sooner when I noticed all the red flags, but it was easier to live in constant denial.

Fun fact: he called me out of the blue 4 years after the divorce to see how I was faring. I suppose he wanted to see me being miserable, but I was truly living my best life — still am :).

21.

Mine had a fictitious job which she was claiming she started early and had accepted an unpaid hand over period and was going to get paid from January the following year.

By February she still wasn’t getting paid and my best mate was strangely busy every time she was working.

I waited for definite proof before breaking up with her as she had an illness which although real she exaggerated. Lots of suspicious behaviour later I was really struggling.

In May she claimed to have been paid and I without snooping saw a letter about a bank loan on the bin. That night was bin day I stood outside waiting for her to get home with the bin in my hand and saw his car show up down the road.

They didn’t see me and I walked up to the car to see them kissing passionately. Despite that she still denied anything was going on 😂.

22.

My friend rang me up. Turns out she had been sleeping with guys at work. One of her coworkers didn’t like her and told my friend who promptly passed it onto me.

I sent her a text saying we were done and then ghosted her. It’s the reason I don’t have any social media except reddit. From her perspective I essentially disappeared overnight.

Hearing her freaking out for months from friends was satisfying. Haven’t seen her in over 10 years now.

If anyone is cheated on don’t do anything stupid. Just remove yourself from them completely. It’s the best revenge you can get.

23.

She didn’t come home after dropping our youngest off at preschool 2 miles away for the afternoon session.

I noticed she had makeup on and showered early, on her day off, which never happened. Watched her location and she was in a rural area she never goes to and it wouldn’t zoom in. Finally zoomed in and I screenshot it.

Drove down and walked in on her, butt naked, in his trailer waiting for round 2. He was outside smoking a cigarette and when I walked up he looked like he thought I was about to [unalive] him.

24.

Parked outside his house and asked him what he’s doing. He said “just relaxing at home” but he wasn’t home.

Went through his phone that night and found everything. He was cheating with at least four other women.

25.

Not my spouse (girlfriend), but I literally had a prophetic dream about it. I dreamed that she had taken me to a Mexican restaurant and told me that she cheated on me with one of our mutual friends a week prior to me actually finding out, and I wrote it in my dream journal because it had me really shaken up, (you know, those super hyperrealistic nightmare type dreams) but I dismissed it as paranoia.

Exactly a week later we went to go eat at a Mexican restaurant and she was acting a little bit strange… and my heart just dropped to my a*s and I felt my whole body start shaking. I knew I was right.

And she looked at me and said “I have something to tell you” and I didn’t even let her finish, I just said “was it ?” And her face went white as a fg ghost and I stormed out of the restaurant.

She followed and I said some very mean things to her and dumped my leftovers in the back of her car… not my finest moment but hey, I’d never been cheated on before and it was a moment of extreme anger.

If I could go back in time I would have held my head higher — I think that would have hurt her worse.

Listen to your gut, people!! The subconscious has a way of telling you what you need to know!!

26.

My then 3 yr daughter told her grandma about noises she heard from mom’s room. Then her grandma told me, ended it soon after, no explanation, just packed and left.

27.

I was suspicious, Spider Sense was tingling. She left her laptop open logged into her work email. Her lover was a coworker.

Nothing was in the inbox. Dummy deleted all the emails but didn’t delete her trash. It was all there. Cool cool cool.

28.

I was rubbing her stomach in bed and she made a joke about not being pregnant assuring me she’d had a pregnancy test 2 weeks before.

We hadn’t seen each other in 3 months because she was studying in Scotland…

29.

The wife of the guy that she cheated on me with spray painted a message on the side of her car in his driveway to stop f***ing her husband.

It was apparently OK because she hadn’t told me that she aborted our child until 3 months after she disappeared out of my life through text. I was worried for nothing apparently.

30.

We had been having trouble conceiving. 2 miscarriages within a year. He’s convinced it’s something wrong with me and schedules me a well woman exam.

I say fine, knowing it’s most likely due to my age and they won’t be able to do anything about that but go to the appointment anyway.

They say if the labs come back abnormal they’ll call me. About 4–5 days later while at the store, he gets picked up for a warrant.

I go back home and about 15 mins later the doctors office calls. Tells me I have an STI. No. That can’t be right. I’m married! I’ve only been with my husband.

Silence on the other end ….

Can I tell you I was counting down the minutes for that free 5 min call from jail….

31.

My bf and flatmate went out for drinks while I stayed home with a flu. I fell asleep on the sofa watching TV and woke up to noises upstairs.

It sounded like moaning and kissing. My heart sank and I felt like throwing up as I silently crept to my bedroom to peer in.

My flatmate was on top of my bf half naked. She saw me and leapt off and ran out to her bedroom & shut the door. I yelled and banged on it and she ignored me.

I went to him to yell & get an explanation & he pretended he was asleep. Completely ignoring me. And denying it the next day.

32.

I smelt the pu**sy on her breath and confronted her.. she broke down and admitted to f*****g around with her lesbian coworker.

She was pregnant at the time. Wasn’t mine. When I met her she was 2 months pregnant.

After the break up I found out she was married to another guy the whole time and had bailed out on him while he was at work and moved in with me.

Yes.. we dated a few months prior. Lived about 2 hours away. Got tired of the drive that’s why we rushed a bit.. or at least that’s why I did.

Turns out she was just a nympho for anything that would touch her.

33.

She’d been having sleepovers at her best galpal’s. I was feeling weird about it. I snooped.

She’d just sent nude photos to MY friend of her and the girl together. I’d been feeling weird for a bit. On some level I knew.

34.

First, I was awoken in the middle of the night with my ex calling me to pick him up. I had fallen asleep with him next to me hours earlier. He was pulled over by the police and they impounded the car.

His story was that he got up in the middle of the night to drive to the beach to watch the sunrise. Sure, Jan.

Then he came home a few times from work (a white collar job), 2–3 hours late, and went directly to shower.

I dropped by his work to ask him something and he kept running away from me, wouldn’t speak to me or even acknowledge my existence.

I had to pick up his paycheck another time and told the receptionist why I was there, because he was in a meeting. She proclaimed that I couldn’t be his wife because she knew for a fact that he was not married.

I confronted him and told him I knew he was cheating, and he told me I was “mentally unstable” and was going to have me “involuntarily committed to a mental hospital”.

I put a keystroke tracker on his computer. I found the secret email account and the girlfriend. I knew her name, where she worked, and that he had been on dating sites for years.

I changed the locks and left a note on the front door.

We had been married for 20 years.