Noah Berman
5. Teachers should read notes before they make the students read them out loud:
In high school a girl in class passed a note to another girl, asking if she had a pad or tampon. Teacher completely blew up, started yelling at them, and asked them to read it out loud. They did, and the teacher, who was an older man, immediately calmed down and let it go. I think he was more embarrassed than the girls.
4. Maybe you failed because you spent so much time building planes?
I am not a teacher, but I have a story which was kind of the opposite When I was in college I was in a large math lecture hall 2 times a week, and me and my friends took to making paper planes and throwing them down from the back of the theater.
We did it often and I am sure we thought we were hilarious. Somehow nobody said a word except for the occasional snicker and it went on like that, on and off for the semester. Then, on the last day I remember writing “happy christmas Dr Jones!” on a plane and throwing it down , seeing it land in front of the lecturer.
He blew a fuse, and started shouting about how this had been going on all semester and he thought it was a disgrace. Then he picked up the plane and read the message, got very embarassed and meekly said “thankyou.”
I still cringe to think of my childish actions, but it did give me that moment of connection with the lecturer (before failing his class)
3. Thank goodness for this edit:
My then-fiancee was a high school math teacher. One day she thought she saw a note being passed, but she wasn’t sure, so she waited.
Then she thought she saw it again. Finally she saw it, walked over, and took it. It was a wedding card, signed by half of the class before she took it. She cried.
Edit: Yes, she’s now my wife.
2. Poor Mr. Fifield 🙁
Another non-teacher here, but my 7th grade teacher typically always wore a dress shirt to class and looked very presentable but this day he had his sleeves rolled up.
Now, everyone loved this teacher but my immediate though was to write a note to my friend sitting beside me that his arms were super hairy, and that note was passed back and forth with us cracking jokes about it. Nothing malicious or overly mean, just that we didn’t think he’d have such hairy arms.
We eventually got caught, and between classes he took us aside and warned us to not pass notes, and since this was the first time this happened he would toss it out without reading it and let us go.
Well, a couple months go by and he decides to wear short sleeves again, and his arms were noticeably less hairy. I know 12 year olds don’t have the greatest moral compass but to this day I still feel so bad that my dumbass little note might have made him so self-conscious about something so unimportant.
I’m sorry Mr. Fifield, wherever you are now 🙁
1. This person sounds like a great teacher:
I taught for a decade in a really rough area. I intercepted a lot of notes and was pretty shameless in public humiliation of my kids. I read a lot of a bad stuff out loud.
However, one really nice moment that stands out was when the super popular bubbly latina girl sat next to the stereotype depressed weird white theater band girl. I see them passing notes which is really uncharacteristic. The band girl seemed off and upset, but I let it go because it seemed like there was something going on more, and the latina girl was a really nice kid. I didn’t think she was bullying or anything.
I had the girls stay after for a second, and asked them what was up. The latina girl said, “I was worried about her, she looked sadder than usual. So I wanted to make sure she’s cool.” I asked the other girl if that’s what was happening and she said yep, and showed me the notes, which was a really heart felt convo about boys, relationships and feeling lonely. It was so damned sweet.
I asked if they needed more time, and they both said yes. I could get them excused from their next class and they asked if they could chill and talk more? I said sure, because you bet your ass wellness and mental health is a fuck-ton more important than curriculum.
They really had a moment, and it seemed to help them both. This was as 10th graders. I got to see them really develop a nice friendship over the next few years.
Go girls! Wherever you are now, I hope you’re still friends and I’m glad I could help facilitate that.